5 Daring Truths About Loving Yourself To Empower You

What does loving yourself mean to you?

Take a moment and think about this question.

To me, loving yourself is a sacred and empowering process because it requires you to look deep within yourself and address things that live underneath the surface of your immediate awareness. 

Since I want to empower you, I have to talk to you from the place of the truth. I won’t tell you loving yourself is about external things you do for yourself, like getting a haircut or a massage. It is about overcoming internal challenges, beliefs, or patterns that unconsciously keep you stuck while choosing new, healthy ways to live. 

Only when you address the fundamental reason standing between you and the loving version of yourself you desire can you heal and release whatever is holding you back. 

5 Daring Truths About Loving Yourself

1. At first, it gets uncomfortable

Fearing the discomfort of our growth is the #1 reason we pull away, not realizing that’s where our healing lies. 

When it comes to loving yourself, discomfort is inevitable. You are peeling the layers of your old self. You are shedding your old beliefs, habits, and self-sabotaging behaviors. 

Although this all sounds good and healthy at first, when your mind is put to the test and challenged to act in a new, healthy way, it will go into a panic. Your mind is not used to this new healthy habit you are trying to implement. Therefore, it will give you a bit of a hard time at first. 

When this happens, use your awareness to stay conscious, calm, and collected. Understand that you have the mind, but you are not your mind. Your mind is literally a collection of the past, nothing else. 

2. It may feel lonely at times

There may come a time when you feel misunderstood and even disconnected from the people who were once very close to you. 

When you begin healing your past and changing who you are, not everyone will get it or feel comfortable with these changes. 

Some people will understand it, and some will crave the old version of you and unconsciously go against the person you are trying to become. 

This is a common and very natural part of the process. Don’t allow it to slow you down. 

Could this be a reason that some people will leave your life? Maybe yes, since they are not ready or open to receive the new version of you. Understand that you are a part of their world. And when you begin changing, you will be changing a part of their world too. Some people are not ready for it, and it has nothing to do with you. 

3. Loving yourself is about going back ‘home’

Underneath your mind, thoughts, and emotions lies the true essence of what you call yourself. What you today perceive as your personality is just a set of moods, attitudes, and behaviors that were reinforced enough times to shape you into who you are today. 

The fundamental question is, “Does this personality serve and empower you?” 

When you decide to move from the unhealed version of yourself to the one who feels worthy of love, respect, and belonging, the change within is inevitable. Although it may feel scary at first since it is unknown, it represents your way back to yourself before all the trauma, pains, and wounds crowded the space. 

I encourage you to look at it and ask yourself,

“What is my idea of the loving and worthy version of me? How does she act, think, behave, and live?” 

4. It requires you to be true to yourself

Since the term “being true to yourself” may sound vague, let me offer you some examples. 

Setting boundaries with those around you in a sensible way is being true to yourself. Standing up for yourself even when you are scared of the outcomes means being true to yourself. Doing things that are good for you and staying disciplined means being true to yourself. 

Understand that this isn’t about seeking comfort or what you feel like doing in the moment. Living in your truth will, at first, challenge you to some extent. This goes back to the part of your healing process where you are shedding the past. Allow yourself to withstand the discomfort and focus on the bigger picture – loving yourself. 

5. It all comes down to self-respect

People often ask me, “How do I love myself? How should I go about it?”

Work on respecting yourself – it will lead you towards loving yourself. 

So the question to ask yourself is,

” What behaviors and actions would speak of self-respect in my life? How can I live my life in a way that honors my well-being?” 

Remember that the answers you get may not be easy to go about or may not represent things you necessarily want to do. 

Having a conversation with your loved ones about setting boundaries isn’t easy, let alone comfortable. But when you take this action and honor yourself, you will respect yourself. 

Which one of these 5 truth do you resonate with? I’d love to know. Feel free to share your soul in the comment section below.