3 Ways How to Comfort Yourself When Feeling Sad

Do you recall a day when you simply didn’t feel your best and no matter how hard you tried, the feelings of sadness weren’t subsiding? Maybe, you even judged yourself for not being able to “snap back” and feel just fine. 

When these days show up, what is the most loving thing you can do to comfort yourself? 

Last week, I happened to have one of those days. I woke up in the morning and instantly noticed the well-known feeling of slight helplessness. As I got up and began my day, I tried to pump up my motivation by watching inspirational videos and giving myself a pep-talk in Rocky Balboa style. However, it wasn’t working, (love you, Rocky). 

I felt defeated, doubtful and in fear, stuck in my reasoning of why I won’t reach the goals I set to accomplish, heal from things I want to heal, or attain the level of growth I strive for. 

As I became more aware of my vulnerable emotional state, I realized that I was judging myself for feeling sad.  

Life comes in waves, and some days will be more challenging than others. Instead of focusing on how we should or shouldn’t feel, how about we embrace it by giving ourselves the space to express what we feel without judgment?

I have a little picture hanging on my wall that says, “Love is all you need.” Isn’t that true? What do you need when you feel sad? Love. What do you need when you feel vulnerable? Love. What do you need when you feel anxious? Love. The best thing is that love comes in many different forms from discipline, self-soothing, commitment or learning how to comfort yourself. 

Today, I want to share with you 4 ways how to comfort yourself when feeling emotionally defeated. 

1 Honor your feelings with compassion

I bet you can relate to those moments when you feel down but keep pushing yourself to be positive because you think you “should ” 

I see it with my clients all the time. Since we are so eager to feel better, grow, and heal, when our emotional state doesn’t reflect this desire, we tend to beat ourselves down. We think we “should” feel different, we ‘should” feel better because, well, we are doing all this work on ourselves, right? 

Although for the longest time I believed it myself, eventually I realized how much unnecessary pressure we put on what we do and how we act and how little room we leave for just being and feeling. 

Next time, when you feel sad or emotional, embrace emotions you feel and use this moment or even a day as an opportunity to practice self-care and comfort yourself. Allow yourself to feel your feelings and give yourself what your soul needs. Once you take the pressure off, you will feel the relief that comes from allowing yourself to just be. 

Here is the inner talk I gave myself last week: Ok baby, you are a little sad today. Take a shower, get in bed, make yourself a mint tea and read your meditation book. It’s okay to feel this way.”

2 It’s yoga time

You don’t have to be a Yoga enthusiast to enjoy the benefits of this beautiful practice. Although many see yoga as stretching and bending, yoga is also about unity and going within. 

I have done many yoga sessions where I barely stretch or bend since they were intended for different purposes. One of my favorite Yoga channels is Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube. You can find hundreds of yoga videos from regular yoga classes, yoga for beginners, short yoga sessions, or even yoga for suffering or yoga for anger. 

Another form of yoga I recommend is Yoga Nidra. Yoga Nidra is a state of consciousness between waking and sleeping, typically induced by guided meditation. 

You can do this right before bed or in the evening to let go of the anxiety and stress while reaching deep states of relaxation. I absolutely love Yoga Nidra, and one of the channels I follow and recommend is Ally Boothroyd. 

3 Just breath

Simple breathing can calm your anxiety, get you out of fight-or-flight mode and significantly calm down your nerves in stressful and demanding situations. 

I am sharing one of these simple breathing techniques in my free masterclass, “4 laws of the mind for powerful inner healing.” I invite you to come and join us. I’d love to see you there. 

The power of breathing is in accessing the present moment. When you feel emotionally challenged, there are often two reasons for that. You are either revisiting your past or worrying about the future. 

By learning how to work with your breath, especially when feeling stress and unease, you will learn how to effectively self-regulate your emotional state, comfort yourself, and stay in control. 

4  Soothing Guided Meditation

Different meditations and mindfulness exercises are intended for calming anxiety and soothing yourself. 

What I found very helpful is to tune into guided meditations with calming music and comforting and kind affirmations. I recommend doing them while lying down and letting go of any pressure or expectations. 

Since I love these meditations and find them helpful, I recorded Soothing Meditation for More Joy and Inner Peace. It is a 15-minute guided meditation to comfort yourself and feel at ease. 

I am convinced that the quality of our lives depends on how much healing and growth we commit to. Since we are emotional beings, our decisions, actions, and results are driven by our feelings. 

I encourage you to work on yourself. Develop a practice that empowers and supports you when you need it the most. Learn tools and techniques that help you stay in control and become so in love with who you are, every single decision you make and every action you take will speak “I love myself and I know what I am worth.” 

It doesn’t matter where you came from, you can change your life. If you are ready to transform your life through healing, mindfulness, and going within, then I invite you to check out my 6-week coaching program Healing SOULS. The door to Healing SOULS will close soon so don’t wait, it’s time to heal and grow together.